sql语句like多个条件的写法

sql  
表A  
no name 
1   lu，li，zhang  
2   zhou，wei，liu  
3   li，fang  
表B  
no name  sex 
1   li          1 
2   lu         0 
3   zhou    0 
4   zhang  1  
   
怎么实现select * from A where A.name like (select B.name from B where B.sex=1) 
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sqlserver写法 
select distinct a.no,a.name from a,b where charindex(b.name,a.name)>0 and b.sex=1 
   
oracle写法 
select distinct a.no,a.name from a,b where instr(a.name,b.name)>0 and b.sex=1 
   
----- instr() 定位子串 instr('Hello World', 'or')   返回8